Oftentimes as mothers we neglect are own wants and needs. Constantly putting everyone else’s before are own. It is hardwired into women to care and nurture their family. In the abundance of blessings and chaos it can be difficult to find a healthy balance. Here is a poem to remind all mothers that’s it’s okay to take a break. Its okay to stop amidst the hustle and bustle and just be. There will always be something that needs to be done. Whether dishes, laundry, cleaning, or one of the other million things mothers take care of, it can wait another day. Go do something fun and make some wholesome memories.
This is for the mother who lost her way
Who feels like she can’t make it another day
The face inside the mirror
Is not familiar as it appears.
The face you see belongs to someone new
Someone that isn’t you.
You reminisce on forgotten times
When life was about the party and rides.
The friends you once held dear
Now nowhere near
As the title of motherhood becomes clear.
You’ve lost yourself along the way
Somewhere in between they need me now and maybe another day.
The steady tick of time, subtle yet profound
If you’re not observant, you wont even know it has a sound.
For one moment it is here, the next it is not
Forever bound within the clock.
Your identity has been lost,
replaced with tummy time and burp cloths.
Obviously to the overall cost.
A part of you is missing, not like before.
Oh, how a part of you longs for more.
You use to be able to go as you please.
Now you move according to the baby’s needs.
Every choice you must make.
now holds a totally different high stakes.
No longer do they just effect you
But now your family too.
Pregnancy wasn’t gentle on your body.
You longer feel like a hottie.
Stretch marks and extra weight.
Hormones and moods fluctuate.
The meat suit you occupy,
no longer feel right inside.
Everything is different, nothing is the same.
There is really, no one to blame.
The days are long and the nights are lonely.
Weeks by without noticing.
The same routine, the same tasks complete.
But most days feel like defeat.
Be strong mamma, you are doing just fine.
Before you know it, this time will pass you by.
Just like a caterpillar morphing to a butterfly.
The same is the journey through a mothers eyes.
All the pieces the same as before,
just moved around and transformed.
Beautiful, renewed and not like before
But every piece of you was needed to transform.
Nothing is missing or lost,
it’s just been relocated to a different spot.
You can find it deep inside,
where it has always reside.
Spread your wings mamma and learn how to fly.
Don’t let this moment pass you by.
Go do something simply because it make you smile.
Indulge in something you haven’t for a while.
You are more than just a mother and wife.
You are your own person, with a life.
Don’t let the days blur into weeks, weeks into years.
Held back by lack of confidence and fears.
Your children are watching, learning who to become.
Deciding to embrace individually or succumb.
Succumb to the ways of society
and how other people tell them to be.
Be strong mamma you’re doing just fine,
in this dispensation of time.
Show your little ones how to be unique
and how the world isn’t for the weak.
Don’t lose yourself in the mess and chaos
Or this amazing opportunity will be at a loss.
An opportunity to teach a tiny human being,
what it means to be free.
The girl that you used to know, is right where she used to be.
A little older, a little wiser, more mature, certainly.
not less than or inadequate, only transformed,
into something more.
Like a butterfly emerging from a cocoon.
Now living life to a different tune.
Your are unique, beautiful and strong
and you had it figured out all along.
Reconnect with your inner self and show her how to live.
Then pass the lessons along to your kids.
A mother who is exhausted and stretched to thin
always struggles to win and make it to the end.
Be tentative to your wants and needs
Done deny yourself of pleasurable things.
Would you want the same for your little one
to go and go until they come undone?
Show them what it’s like to be spontaneous, creative and fun.
Teach them while they are young.
If you don’t teach them, who will?
Who will teach them how to heal?
In a world that focused on go, go, go.
Learn to say no, no, no.
No dishes or laundry for me today,
yet another day the mess can stay.
No cleaning or daily chores,
today is for relaxing and letting life be adored.
Won’t you do that today?
Give yourself a little room to play?
To throw caution to the wind
Today’s the perfect day to begin.
Reconnect with your inner child
Let loose and be a little wild.
For motherhood is just a short season
After that it’s up to us to find a reason.
You spend so many years taking care children and never yourself
Constantly neglecting your own health.
What’s going to happen when the kids are grown?
No longer constantly needs to be shown.
How are you going to handle an empty nest,
when you never learned to rest?
How will you ever give them your all
If you constantly create the perfect storm to fall.
Its okay to stop for a moment
You don’t have to be your own opponent.
Take a moment just to breath
Then carry on with everyone else’s needs.
Be strong mamma, you are doing just fine.
Don’t be so hard on yourself in this difficult time.
Heather Congrove 